The illustrious Avraham Bronstein quotes a letter from this past week's Yated. I read that letter over Shabbos at my cousin's house in Lakewood (more about that in later posts). Nothing makes me more cynical than spending a Shabbos in Lakewood, by the way (and this week I missed the Rabbi's speech).
The letter starts off with a woman recognizing that the shidduch crisis in the Yeshivish community is exacerbated by the boys asking for a certain amount of money up front. Some people just can't afford to guarantee 1000 dollars a month for the next few years. I know it crazy, but sometimes people without a college education and a large family just don't have that type of money floating around. Call me crazy.
Well, at this point I'm pleasantly surprised. I've been familiar with this problem for a while and was happy that someone was finally taking notice and that the Yated was willing to give them print. Great, I thought.
So what's the writer's solution? Ask rich people to donate the money! Let's just ask rich people to give more tzedakah so every Tom, Dick, and Harry can spend years learning on someone else's dole. Of course since even rich people are only going to give a limited amount of money, the financial backing of a kollel wife will decrease the amount given to other, more worthy, causes. Poor people should starve so everyone can learn in comfort.
It's amazing that someone would reject a girl simply because her parents aren't rich. Most guys are only going to live for a few years anyway. Am I crazy for thinking it's ridiculous for someone to choose his spouse solely on the basis of whether he can learn full-time for two or three years? Am I the only one who thinks this whole system is absurd? Why can't people see the obvious answer is for not everyone to spend years in kollel on someone else's income?